Is it wrong to want to sleep well?
Hi friend ☺️
I know you’ve probably heard the teaching that in order to sleep better we need to stop wanting to control sleep. Well, that’s definitely true, because sleep seems to happen in the moment we least expect it (what a coincidence 🥸). Like a cat that comes to you only when you stopped trying to cuddle with it.
What I noticed, however, that in order to get it right we often try to suppress our desire or try to hide it. It’s still there, we feel it, we know that there is a part of us that wants sleep to happen and it wants it NOW. We pretend it is not there, but we can’t fool ourselves - we still know that we are trying to sleep.
What I want to say may sound strange, but please don’t try to get rid of your desires 🙏.
It is pointless to try to renounce our deep desires, because they eventually burst from all the pressure that we use to suppress them.
A path to letting them go is actually acknowledging that we have them and that we have the right to have them - because let’s be honest: everyone wants to feel good and sleep well - that’s a reasonable desire.
So can we admit with a complete honesty that “yes, I know that there is a part of me that wants to feel good and have it over - and that’s okay. If I had control here, I would probably choose to not struggle, but since sleep is beyond my control, Im just going to take care of myself the best as I can.”?
It turned out that being honest and admitting the desires, while acknowledging the reality, can stop any tricks that the mind plays on us and helps us move on.
See you next week <3
Ali
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