Thank you for this letter. I joined my husband as he traveled for work. I had a good time but I slept horrible. I feel today like I went backwards in my recovery journey. But I did not. Just a big speed bump I need to get over.
Love this Alina thanks! This resonates with me around sleeping in the spare room. In my mind it’s more comfortable, more spacious than sharing the bed with my partner, and I don’t fear waking her up or vice versa. I really struggle to not move there after an hour or so where I feel hyperaroused, but I think I am slowly building up the courage to deal with sleeping in the bed with her and facing disruption. But as you say, you have to organically want to and not feel forced otherwise that’s just more pressure. Tricky!
Alina, this is exactly what happened to me last week! I noticed that I was subtly avoiding early morning schedules for months and I decided to break this habit by applying for a job that had an early morning appointment. Not going to lie: the night before the appointment was tough, because I know that I was deliberately doing something scary for my brain after months of good sleep. I slept poorly and it caused a lot of fear but I did it with the purpose of addressing one of my lingering and sneaky efforts (that is, avoid morning appointments). Thanks a lot for this post!!
Thank you for this letter. I joined my husband as he traveled for work. I had a good time but I slept horrible. I feel today like I went backwards in my recovery journey. But I did not. Just a big speed bump I need to get over.
Happy you went there and had a good time! that's valuable in the long run, even though it may create some turbulence short term
Love this Alina thanks! This resonates with me around sleeping in the spare room. In my mind it’s more comfortable, more spacious than sharing the bed with my partner, and I don’t fear waking her up or vice versa. I really struggle to not move there after an hour or so where I feel hyperaroused, but I think I am slowly building up the courage to deal with sleeping in the bed with her and facing disruption. But as you say, you have to organically want to and not feel forced otherwise that’s just more pressure. Tricky!
That's perfectly applicable to situations like switching back to sleeping in bedroom too! You are spot on :)
Alina, this is exactly what happened to me last week! I noticed that I was subtly avoiding early morning schedules for months and I decided to break this habit by applying for a job that had an early morning appointment. Not going to lie: the night before the appointment was tough, because I know that I was deliberately doing something scary for my brain after months of good sleep. I slept poorly and it caused a lot of fear but I did it with the purpose of addressing one of my lingering and sneaky efforts (that is, avoid morning appointments). Thanks a lot for this post!!
That's awesome! So happy that you decided to challenge your residual resistance <3