Definitely helped put so much into perspective! I managed to escape the self-hatred loop by observing my thoughts and allowing them to be, because I care about things and that’s okay! I’m human and giving myself permission to feel everything allowed me to let go of the struggle which is super paradoxical! Thank you, Alina!
Hi Alina! Thank you so much for your newsletter~ I’ve been getting extremely wonderful sleep and found it easier and easier to move away from the struggle. I’m still in the recovery in processing all of my triggers. Especially when I have a particularly busy day the next day (which is the biggest trigger for me). I really want to give myself compassion but end up feeling so angry every time the hyperarousal from the trigger kicks in the night before. It’s so difficult not to get angry at myself every time when I think back before I had insomnia and how “unstoppable” I was before. Then I end up hating myself even more. Any tips on how to get through this?
I understand this, Gisella. The pressure to sleep before busy days is totally expected. Knowing that many people, even without insomnia, can have a rough night before important days can be helpful. Also, worrying about an important day might not really be about insomnia, but simply a sign that you care about things in your life. Sometimes when we see it that way, it can help us treat ourselves with more compassion. Similar how it's not a crime to worry about sleep when you have a baby to take care of or going through some rough period in life or at work. Placing our feelings in this context can ease the self-critical narrative. Hope this helps!
Definitely helped put so much into perspective! I managed to escape the self-hatred loop by observing my thoughts and allowing them to be, because I care about things and that’s okay! I’m human and giving myself permission to feel everything allowed me to let go of the struggle which is super paradoxical! Thank you, Alina!
Hi Alina! Thank you so much for your newsletter~ I’ve been getting extremely wonderful sleep and found it easier and easier to move away from the struggle. I’m still in the recovery in processing all of my triggers. Especially when I have a particularly busy day the next day (which is the biggest trigger for me). I really want to give myself compassion but end up feeling so angry every time the hyperarousal from the trigger kicks in the night before. It’s so difficult not to get angry at myself every time when I think back before I had insomnia and how “unstoppable” I was before. Then I end up hating myself even more. Any tips on how to get through this?
I understand this, Gisella. The pressure to sleep before busy days is totally expected. Knowing that many people, even without insomnia, can have a rough night before important days can be helpful. Also, worrying about an important day might not really be about insomnia, but simply a sign that you care about things in your life. Sometimes when we see it that way, it can help us treat ourselves with more compassion. Similar how it's not a crime to worry about sleep when you have a baby to take care of or going through some rough period in life or at work. Placing our feelings in this context can ease the self-critical narrative. Hope this helps!